NLP explores the relationships between how we think (neuro), how we communicate (linguistic) and our patterns of behaviour and emotion (programmes). I attended Emma's brilliant workshop "The Power of the Mind" in April and afterwards I wanted to know more about her path.
1. Tell us about yourself.
I am an English NLP Practitioner trained to Master Practitioner level originally from South West England who is now enjoying sunny Barcelona!
Originally trained in Textile Design, and after 5 years working in the Textile Industry I soon realized my passion was elsewhere and I wanted a career that represented that. I started attending more self-development workshops in 2009 and making huge shifts in both my personal and professional life choosing to really live life rather than just exist.
I now carry out NLP coaching sessions in central Barcelona as well as to clients worldwide via Skype with a special interest in the links between food and emotions. This ties in nicely with my life experience and additional training at the School of Natural Nutrition and Life Energetics by my mother, Montse Bradford. Every Monday I also run Barcelona NLP Practice group in central Barcelona which is open to all (beginners and also those with experience) who wish to learn more about NLP and useful tools to use in everyday life.
2. What made you interested in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)? Was there a special event that led you to this path?
After hearing about NLP through various family members, friends and an ex-partner I found myself booking a place on a practitioner course in London with Jessica Robbins. At the time I was in a difficult place, I experienced many changes within a few months relating to career, relationship, loss of loved one, new country and language. I was physically, emotionally and mentally exhausted and the NLP Practitioner course seemed to be a way to personally help me out of that. I remember thinking on the first day of the course 'I have no idea what this really is, why have I booked this?' I soon realized how much I loved it, amazed at the positive changes it brought and started to see myself doing this as a career too which initially never crossed my mind.
3. What is the biggest benefit that you have received from NLP?
Through NLP exercises and techniques I have discovered ways to remember how capable and worthy I am. I feel as if I can see again, after having my head in thick clouds with a greater sense of strength. Rather than feeling a victim of life, I now remember that I am the one in control and I have the ability to experience what I choose and this is a great feeling. I often describe NLP as a tool to understand the unconscious mind, to alter and improve patterns of thought and behaviour helping us to become the best version of ourselves. Its not about becoming a completely new person (thought it can feel like that sometimes!) it’s about remembering and being aware consciously of our capabilities, strengths and self-worth which on a super conscious level we have always known. It’s as if we are all a light and over the years we pick up limiting beliefs and unhelpful habits through experiences and teachings from role models, we then covered that light with cobwebs, comfort blankets and dust. Sometimes so much so that we forgot who we truly are and that we even have that light inside us. NLP helped me to start unraveling the cobwebs and now I can remember who I truly am.
4. If there were one thing you could tell people to try to do that would help them on their journey, what would it be?
I am are two of the most powerful words there are... Pay attention to what you place after them because that can shape your reality. If you constantly tell yourself I am not good enough your Reticular Activating System (RAS) which acts as filter between the unconscious and conscious minds, will set out to prove that true bringing to you experiences that match your beliefs. By telling yourself that you are good enough and you can do it, notice how much more confidence and self-esteem you will have compared to telling yourself the opposite. If you catch yourself placing negative statements after I am, simply reframe that by asking yourself afterwards 'Is that all that I think I am? Am I not more than that? What am I that's not (state previous negative I am statement)? ' continue with these questions until you notice your thoughts becoming more positive.
"I am fat (oh ok I choose to change my thought)... Is that all that I think I am? No... Am I not I more than that? Yes... What am I that’s not fat? Well I guess I have nice eyes..."
Simple, yet a powerful way to reframe our thoughts and to start focusing on the positives rather than the negatives. The grass is greener where we water it!
NOTE: Be kind to yourself. If you catch yourself saying negative I am statements, try to notice without punishing yourself. Use a simple "oh ok I choose to change my thought" compared to "ah I’m so stupid, why did I say that!!". With the latter you are reinforcing the negative self-talk which you were trying to remove in the first place! We all can criticize ourselves time to time, we all can make mistakes, it’s what we choose to do with those 'mistakes/positive learnings' that count.
5. Do you have a special affirmation or message that you would like to share with the readers?
Choose love. Every choice you make, use what I call the choice check... Are you making the decision out of fear or love? Love for yourself and your future or fear of what may or may not happen? Love is the most powerful thing there is, it is in everything and everyone and we are all worthy of it whether we choose to accept this or not.
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