I know this from my personal experience as I wasn’t always a Pollyanna. I had negative thinking patterns which ate happiness. Thanks to my imagination I was always able to create various versions what could go wrong and then worry about it. Luckily I found a way how to change this and gain control of my thoughts; I want to share the first 3 steps with you.
First step is to take full responsibility. It might feel that our thinking pattern is something that we inherited from our parents or care givers, we might feel powerless against our thoughts and blame situations or people in our lives. Now as an adult we are 100% responsible our life hence we can’t keep blaming others.
"No person, no place, and no thing has any power over us, for 'we' are the only thinkers in our mind. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives." Louise L. Hay
Second step is acknowledging your current thinking patters. Thoughts are like clouds, they keep passing by, but if you keep gathering certain type of negative thoughts, you will create a thunder storm. When you feel that thunder is rising, you may want to start writing down your thoughts on paper.
Third step is to make a conscious choice to change. It is a choice that only you can take. Once you have written down your thoughts, you can then choose to modify them one by one and choose thoughts that would serve you better for example “what if everything goes wrong” can become “what if everything goes well”.
As a challenge for September, just choose one thought that you would like to change. Write it down on paper and then write what you could think instead. The key for changing thought pattern is persistence. Every time when the old thought comes to your mind, replace it with your chosen thought.
Our mind is a tool and we can choose our thoughts. If you would like to get some help with this task, I would be happy to be your coach and help.
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