In the past I ignored my intuition and pursued relationship even though I felt something was off. I spoke myself around and once I discovered the truth, I was blaming myself for being too trusting. Mostly I was upset with myself, because I could have avoided the pain if I would have just listened to my intuition.
Nowadays I listen to my gut feeling when I meet new people. I'm more aware what I sense when I'm near them. Actually no words are needed as I’m reading the energy. Do I feel connected, relaxed and open or do I feel that I want to close myself and take distance? My intuition helps me to see beyond the masks that people might wear. This method works for me in all kind of relationships, personal and professional. When I did interviews in my previous job, I listened to my intuition and found real diamonds for my team.
How can you learn to use your intuition to guide you in relationships? Awareness, attention and action are simple keys to start with developing your intuition. We can learn to pick up the subtle messages and avoid heartbreaks. Yeah, but how can I start, what do I need to do you may ask, I have listed below practical steps
- Awareness. Scan back your life and find moments when you felt very positive or negative towards a new person. Write about these experiences. You can get started by answering to these questions: how would you describe the experience, where in your body you sensed it? You are learning to become more aware of the signs that you receive from your intuition.
- Attention. When you meet a person, center yourself and tune in. The easiest way to center yourself is to focus on your breathing, and continue to breathe slowly and deeply. Pay attention to your senses. What are you experiencing? What is present?
- Action. Learn to trust your intuition and take action accordingly. Your rational mind might want to find evidence, but you might find it once you have already got hurt or on the contrary you might miss a loving relationship by not trusting your feeling to go for it.
"Trusting our intuition often saves us from disaster." -Anne Wilson Schaef
We have an amazing compass within us, our intuition can guide us in our relationships. We can learn to read the signs and let it guide us.
If you have an experience you’d like to share or questions regarding intuition, please leave a comment below or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I will reply as many as I can personally and address some of the most common question on my coming newsletters.