After a long break, I have continued my horse riding hobby. First it felt scary to be back in the saddle but now I’m truly enjoying our 2-hour trails in the Spanish countryside. My favorite horse is called Lacasito meaning “little sweetie”. He is 19 years old and full of experience. I gained trust in him when he didn’t get scared of a snake that crossed our path. He took it very calm albeit I got spooked.
Last time we ended up taking the lead after our halfway break. Lacasito seemed to enjoy being the leading horse and picked up his speed, we got a blessing from the real group leader and we happily continued in our position… I admired the “front seat” views, it was a different experience to ride as the first one than follow the others...But then, suddenly I could feel how he cringed and my heart jumped. A big guardian dog barked at us as we passed by a property. In seconds, we recovered - it was just a dog… We had even seen the dog before but he managed to surprise us. I must say that I did stay more alert. A bit later, another dog spooked us, we still got scared but it was considerably less than the first time... The rest of the trail went well and when we got safely back to the stable, I shared these incidents with the leader. Her reply inspired me to write this letter as she said that “the leader horse always gets the spooks”.
I feel that this applies very well also to us when we are walking on our path to purpose, especially if we are walking a path less traveled.
We can get spooked, scared, panicked or even paralyzed by fear.
When that happens, our logical mind doesn’t always function that well, it’s hard to rationalize things when we are scared. Our obstacles just seem to grow bigger and we might feel getting smaller and smaller. That’s why it’s good to create a plan for those moments, a very simple plan. Just like buildings have their evacuation plans prepared - that’s why you need to prepare a plan for yourself how to get out from the fear zone.
Here are some steps that might help you to create your plan:
1. Observation - what are your thoughts, feelings, and actions. You might also prepare a list of your typical symptoms of fear so you recognize it easier, what has happened in the past can be a learning tool for you.
2. Tools. Prepare a goody bag of tools that can give you a feeling of calmness, trust and courage. These tools could be saying affirmations, reading quotes, watching inspirational videos, going for a walk in nature, etc. You can choose to remind yourself of your BIG WHY.
3. Angel List. Prepare a list of trusted friends or peers who you could reach out. You are not alone! Help is available! Also, I invite you to join my “Lightworkers Who Succeed On Purpose” group where support is available for you!
We all have our unique ways to experience and overcome our fears. When I was a little, I was scared of darkness, it helped when I switched the lights on. Now your awareness is the light switch that has the power to shift the situation. Your fear does not need to be an obstacle, you can turn it to be a stepping stone! As you overcome your fear, you expand your comfort zone and freedom!
"As you start to walk out on the way, the way appears." -Rumi
With Blessing of Light and Love,
P.S. I’d love to hear from you! Please share your thoughts and insights you gained on the comments.